If you are one of the lucky people who will graduate from SU next month, you are about to endure what I think is one of THE most difficult transitions in life.
If you think about it, your life has been a series of transitions that have taken place over time. From home to pre-school, from pre-school to elementary school and then on to middle school and high school. And the transition from high school to college might have been difficult and arduous, but it occurred over a period of time.
But come May 12th at around 12 o’clock, the transition is abrupt. No sliding into adulthood. Bang! You’re there.
And for some, the transition into adulthood, and by adulthood I define that as having accepted the fact that you’re no longer in college and miss the college lifestyle, can still take a few years.
I had the pleasure of seeing some former students last week who have been out of school now for two or three years. All three of them, while having good jobs and are well on their way to good careers, lamented the fact that they weren’t in college any more.
It was part missing being carefree with no adult responsibilities (car payment, college loans, rent to pay etc.) and part being thrown into a world where the vast majority of the people they interact with are of all different ages and places. People who are older, with mortgages and kids. People who are divorced, disgruntled or just plain unhappy with their lot in life. Some people who would just as soon stab you in the back then to look at you. The politics of working life.
I don’t view their feelings as weakness or immaturity. I think it’s part of the transition. Some do it faster than others and I know some who have never made the transition at all. Some friends of mine haven’t and at my age it’s not pretty!
I guess if I have some kind of message here it’s this: Don’t fret. Most of us who have been through that transition know that it takes a while. Hang in there, it will get better. And there are more transitions ahead of you. Marriage, kids, real estate, job moves, divorce and on and on. Some transitions won’t be fun, some will be. As I have often said, life is a marathon, not a sprint so look at going the distance.
I feel your pain, been there done that. Just know that if you keep running and more importantly, keep trying, the transitions you make will get easier.
Finally, I started this by saying “If you are one of the lucky people . . . ” I hope your realize how lucky you are to graduate college and from an institution as fine as Syracuse University. Your family or perhaps yourself, have made some serious sacrifices to make that happen. This is no small accomplishment. So count your blessings and give some thanks, BIG thanks, to those who helped make this happen for you.
All my best to you and good luck. May the transition be smooth and fun.
Andy- The GM